Career & Life

Life and Career- Are not two different things that happen at two different times in life.

Hai all.

The following is an extract from a letter I wrote to somebody hoping it could help them to sort out few things. I think I failed in my attempt…but anyways I am posting this with not much editing so that some day in future I would not be clueless in understanding the life I want to live. J

The following will make only sense to those who are currently consumed up with their unhappy career that life to them seems meaningless. If you do not belong to that genre…you can skip reading this but do read the P.S. and leave your answer.

Yes I do read back what I wrote in the past again and again so that the good part said will not be forgotten as I am blessed with a poor memory.

It’s good that you have this (strong) wanting of "Growing"(in career).
But dear<insert your name for more effectiveness: ~P)….What does 'Growing' in your terminology mean?

--->Getting rich?
--->getting famous?
--->Being appreciated for your hard work?
--->Buying a big bungalow and save lots of money so that you need to work no more?
--->All of the above?

Are all the rich people happy? Are all the poor unhappy? Money surely doesn't bring you happiness all the times. Not saying money is not important. Money is not everything though it is something crucial to keep you confident and secured. But there's never a limit to the amount of money you want to posses. Yes 1 lakh per month is your goal and it’s not that you are asking for too much but remember its 10 k or 100k it’s in no way going to change your state of happiness unless you really want to be happy.

Life is all about living it...not just dreaming and wanting those dreams to be true...It’s what you do to make them true that makes life worth living ......

Everybody gets their 15 minutes of fame in their lives, when it is your time you will get it. Don’t run after it. It’s seriously not worth pursuing after all its not going to be eternal.

Being appreciated...Remember the first person to appreciate your hard work should be you yourself. Nobody else will be ever able to understand the efforts you have taken, the pressure you have given yourself to accomplish that task or whatever. Look nobody has that time or heart for others so be good to yourself. Appreciate yourself not all the times but at least when you know you have really gone beyond your limits independent of the fact that you have been successful or failed. (at least you gave a try!)

Work is necessary to keep us sane so don’t ever dream of a life that would give you comforts without you working hard.

or
--->Just a plain simple job, that recognizes your work, pays you well, gives you enough of your time (Irony-Somebody else giving you your own time!) for things other than work?

The above thing is never going to happen ….simple job with a good pay scale etc etc. Tell me is there one single person who works without complaining? Nobody ever finds an Ideal job...but an ideal life? Yes they do.

Look the only possibilities in life are…

1) You work hard and still find time to relish your success and time for things that are imp. to you and be happy.

2) You work hard and find time for nothing else and be unhappy.

3) You don’t work hard and still be unhappy.


Things that are imp to us are those that will keep us happy.

<Your name> take time and think what are those things that are going to make and keep you happy?

Time with your family? /Time with your friends? / Time with yourself?

I do not know what really makes you happy….but it’s IMPORTANT for you to be aware of that. Before saying that you are not happy realize what really makes you happy.

Look watching TV makes kali happy,

Writing you long nonsense letters, painting though I know  I can never master it, growing plants, cursing my chemistry mam, blaming god or may be just looking at the passing clouds or getting drenched in the rain ...makes me happy.

It makes my mom happy to know that I’m happy.

Do not get used to working hard so much that you get used to becoming deaf to your needs. Do not get used to the feeling that you cannot be happy and nothing is in your hands.

Everything is in your hands. Everything happens just the way you want it to. Before saying that something is wrong know what is correct. And then start working, to replace the wrong with the correct.

Enjoy your life to the fullest and be cool nothing is going to happen against your will.

You know what someday in future you will be proudly telling everybody about how hard you used to work at the start of your career and all such things! You will be happy because you know you have struggled and will be satisfied at a later point in life, with your success coz you know you have put in the rite efforts and fully deserve it.

And now if you felt this to be stupidity  from my side to write all this  then just smile < name> ...I wrote this bcoz writing makes me happy and ha the other thing though least possible is that it would help you to understand what you want in life.

Work is worship but it’s not the only thing you need to do the whole day. Plan your day...give time for other imp things too...may be a minute to look at the sunrise, may be a morning walk, a long warm bath, few minutes doing your favorite puzzle or crossword, reading your favorite book- a page a day, take a minute( I would take an hour) to look at yourself in the mirror or may be counting the stars, or may be sometimes just don’t do anything-lie down and daydream, Start doing things you always wanted to and things that you were always scared of.......

<Your name>...There’s a saying that if you can’t stand the heat come out of the kitchen. If you think you are in the wrong place come out of it.
And God never places us in a situation that we cannot handle.

All that matters….is to live the life to the fullest happilyJ

P.S.

When we write a letter and send it to someone. Does that content belong to the writer or the receiver?

Do I still have a right to publish this here??